He woke up in the morning and found her praying. He heard her praying
for him.He stared at her. It has been a long time since he has seen her
praying. For the past few months, they have been arguing. Last night,
they had a nasty fight.He went downstairs in a hurry to prepare himself
breakfast. These past days, she hasn't been cooking for him. Shock on
him; he found breakfast already set at the table. He ate. He went back
to the bedroom, to prepare for a shower. She left the shower. "Good
morning. Have a blessed day" she said as she entertained the bedroom and
he left for the bathroom.
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After his shower, all dressed up
for work, he found his wife at the kitchen, eating breakfast in peace.
She was looking at some funny videos on her phone and giggling. He
looked at her then walked out the door. The last look he had of her
before he left was of her at peace. That last look disturbed him. This
is not how she should be. This is not how she has been. He has been
hurting her, she has recently found out that he has been flirting with
other women, he has cheated once and used money meant for their family
on other women. She should be angry. Her peaceful demeanor disturbed
him.
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Evening came. He went home and met his peaceful wife
again. She was cooking and laughing with their children. She had come
from work two hours ago.The dinner was enjoyable. Good food, she having
warm conversations with the children. He as the father felt left out.
His wife and children seemed to be having fun despite him hurting them.
After dinner, as she washed the dishes and the children had gone to bed.
He approached her. "Are you OK?" he asked her. "I am more than OK. I am
blessed "She answered. "Are you not mad at me? After all that I am
doing and have done wrong?" he asked. She placed the washed plate in the
rack then looked at him and said, "I asked myself, what is the most
important relationship in my life? The one I have with you or the one
with God? And I realized it is the one with God.
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I live for
God, not for you. Marrying you was a blessing but it is not all there is
in life. God has blessed me with life and I will not waste it crying
because of the hurt you cause me to feel "She picked up a dirty glass
and began washing it. "I realized I had given you too much power... Yes,
you are my husband, the closest human being in my life and the human
being I love the most; but you are not God. You have failed me but God
never fails me. I will not let you ruin my joy, my peace and my
progress. You break our marriage if you want to, but I will hold on to
God. And as I hold on to God, I will be full of joy despite what you do
"She said rinsing the glass. She looked at him and continued, "When you
hurt me and disrespected me, I realized I was acting out like a woman
who has no Jesus. I got mad and hurled insults, I wanted to revenge and I
allowed you to mess me day after day. My performance at work went down,
I talked less to our children, I became bitter to the children, I felt
sorry for myself, I developed ulcers. And then I realized, I have God, I
shouldn't act like someone with no relationship with God. Why should I
be hopeless yet God is with me? I had focused so much on you that I
forgot about God. When you found me, I had God. We dated and got married
and I let everything be about you because I wanted to make our marriage
work. Our marriage became the idol I worship instead of the blessing I
have in God. Our marriage is failing apart because of you but my
relationship with God is still intact "She scrubbed the sufuria. "You
have chosen to abandon our marriage but that doesn't mean my whole world
has collapsed. I will still continue being a good mother to our
children. They will never say the problems between mom and dad, made mom
a monster. You do as you please with other women, I will raise our
children. "
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She looked at him and told him, "Do I hate you?
No, it will be a lie to say I hate you. You are the man I married, the
one I vowed to; the one I love "Tears fell down her cheeks. She wiped
them. "I can't just cancel all the years we've been together. The Bible
asks us to love our enemies. If I am able to love my enemies, surely I
can still love you despite all you have done. I am angry and
disappointed, but I have taken my power back. I live for God who has
exceedingly blessed me, not for you and the pain you cause "She wiped
her wet hands, took the apron from her body and told him, "In my peace, I
am planning on where the children and I will move to. Since you have
chosen to have an affair, you have shown clearly that you don't need us.
So we will not make your life uncomfortable by forcing you to live with
us. You need to be able to bring the woman you are cheating with to
your own house. I am working on something. I came into this house in
peace and I will leave in peace. You will not kill my smile and shine
"She walked to the bedroom. Minutes later. He followed her to the
bedroom. He found her peacefully asleep.He nudged her. He woke her up
and said, "Please don't go, don't move out. I will hurt you no more, I
will cheat no more. I am not OK. I want the peace you have. I want to be
the kind of husband and you are as a wife. "Since that day, he has been
a reformed man. No more affairs, no more hurting her, no flirting with
other women, or endless fights. She didn't move out. She and the
children stayed. He submitted to God and learnt how to be a good
husband, Love is powerful enough to humble the most proud heart.
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